Why I Didn’t Write A Birth Plan

I didn’t write a birth plan. ¬†I’m not encouraging anyone to go this route, it’s just something I didn’t do.¬†¬†I’m not saying that it’s a good or bad thing either way. ¬†I think it’s each individuals choice whether or not a birth plan is needed for them and what they put on their birth plan.¬†¬†The big news around here is that baby number two will be arriving in October. ¬†I don’t plan to write one for the newest addition either. ¬†It’s what seems to have worked best for me!

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Why I Didn’t Write A Birth Plan

I think a lot of it stems from my type B personality...maybe even C. ¬†I’m not a big planner. ¬†Things don’t need to be perfect for me. ¬†Packing takes place the night before we go places. ¬†Party invitations get sent out just in time.¬†¬†It’s how I roll.

I didn’t have any big feelings on things one way or the other. ¬† ¬†I didn’t have any strong opinion whether or not I had an epidural. ¬†I didn’t want a c-section, but if it was what needed to happen I wasn’t going to be upset. ¬†There was nothing that I was absolutely stuck on.

There was probably a part of me that didn’t want to be disappointed. ¬†If I didn’t have huge expectations for how my birth was going to go but I ¬†wasn’t going to be disappointed if it didn’t go that way.

I probably had somewhat of a plan in my head. ¬†I knew I would go in and see how long I could go without needing meds. ¬†I wasn’t opposed to meds if needed. ¬†I didn’t want a c-section, but wasn’t opposed to having one if it was a safety concern.

I just didn’t do it. ¬†I had the sheet that the OB office handed out and initially¬†planned to put something on the sheet. ¬†I just never did. ¬†It’s probably a combination of all the reasons above.

What Happened

I was one of the “lucky” ones. ¬†I had a pretty fast labor, although it was pure back labor. I’m still waiting for that first front contraction. ¬†No braxton hicks or early contractions that I ever felt. ¬†As a matter of fact, it was so fast, I ended up getting an epidural when I was at a 10. ¬†Yes, a 10, I don’t think that anyone puts in their birth plan that they plan to get an epidural at a 1o. ¬†Now, had I known I was a 10 I likely wouldn’t have gotten one, but 45 minutes earlier I was only a 3. ¬†No one could have predicted. ¬†That epidural was the best though! ¬†After my epidural I waited over an hour before I even pushed. ¬†Talked on my phone and laid in bed. ¬†I pushed for less than 30 minutes. ¬†They tell me because I had the epidural and was able to lay there I “labored down” making the pushing much easier for me. ¬†In total I was only in labor (that I realized) for about 5 hours before I was fully dilated. ¬† ¬†In the end, it was nothing like I ever thought it would be. ¬†I just went with what I felt the entire time. ¬†If I had listened to the nurse on the phone telling me it was way to fast for a first time mom to be coming to the hospital I’m pretty sure I would have had the baby in the car. I’m pretty sure my 0 to 100 speed labor would have had any birth plan I had written left in the dust. ¬†My no birth plan, plan worked out for me.

What I May Try Next Time

The one plan that I wish I had in place was the after birth plan.  I personally felt physically good, but there were just so many people.  All had good intentions and of course I appreciated everything that everyone did for us, but it would have been nice to get a break.  I love the tips from CanDo Kiddo on how to put this plan into play.  I just may write this plan next time around Рor at least have it in my head.


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