Why I Didn’t Write A Birth Plan

I didn’t write a birth plan.  I’m not encouraging anyone to go this route, it’s just something I didn’t do.  I’m not saying that it’s a good or bad thing either way.  I think it’s each individuals choice whether or not a birth plan is needed for them and what they put on their birth plan.  The big news around here is that baby number two will be arriving in October.  I don’t plan to write one for the newest addition either.  It’s what seems to have worked best for me!

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Why I Didn’t Write A Birth Plan

I think a lot of it stems from my type B personality...maybe even C.  I’m not a big planner.  Things don’t need to be perfect for me.  Packing takes place the night before we go places.  Party invitations get sent out just in time.  It’s how I roll.

I didn’t have any big feelings on things one way or the other.    I didn’t have any strong opinion whether or not I had an epidural.  I didn’t want a c-section, but if it was what needed to happen I wasn’t going to be upset.  There was nothing that I was absolutely stuck on.

There was probably a part of me that didn’t want to be disappointed.  If I didn’t have huge expectations for how my birth was going to go but I  wasn’t going to be disappointed if it didn’t go that way.

I probably had somewhat of a plan in my head.  I knew I would go in and see how long I could go without needing meds.  I wasn’t opposed to meds if needed.  I didn’t want a c-section, but wasn’t opposed to having one if it was a safety concern.

I just didn’t do it.  I had the sheet that the OB office handed out and initially planned to put something on the sheet.  I just never did.  It’s probably a combination of all the reasons above.

What Happened

I was one of the “lucky” ones.  I had a pretty fast labor, although it was pure back labor. I’m still waiting for that first front contraction.  No braxton hicks or early contractions that I ever felt.  As a matter of fact, it was so fast, I ended up getting an epidural when I was at a 10.  Yes, a 10, I don’t think that anyone puts in their birth plan that they plan to get an epidural at a 1o.  Now, had I known I was a 10 I likely wouldn’t have gotten one, but 45 minutes earlier I was only a 3.  No one could have predicted.  That epidural was the best though!  After my epidural I waited over an hour before I even pushed.  Talked on my phone and laid in bed.  I pushed for less than 30 minutes.  They tell me because I had the epidural and was able to lay there I “labored down” making the pushing much easier for me.  In total I was only in labor (that I realized) for about 5 hours before I was fully dilated.    In the end, it was nothing like I ever thought it would be.  I just went with what I felt the entire time.  If I had listened to the nurse on the phone telling me it was way to fast for a first time mom to be coming to the hospital I’m pretty sure I would have had the baby in the car. I’m pretty sure my 0 to 100 speed labor would have had any birth plan I had written left in the dust.  My no birth plan, plan worked out for me.

What I May Try Next Time

The one plan that I wish I had in place was the after birth plan.  I personally felt physically good, but there were just so many people.  All had good intentions and of course I appreciated everything that everyone did for us, but it would have been nice to get a break.  I love the tips from CanDo Kiddo on how to put this plan into play.  I just may write this plan next time around – or at least have it in my head.


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